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A TRUE friend never judges but tells you the TRUTH.
A true friend expects nothing in return for their kindness and offers it not as an attempt to enlarge their own ego.
A really really good friend might even leave you alone in the dust.
Because they know that most people chose to forge their own path to
mastery without props and railings and training wheels.
Chances are you will not like your true friend, for they provide much hardship and will not let you depend on them.
My friends are those who were there supporting me during tough times.
I don"t believe in the concept of true vs false friends. I think
setting yourself up to see a friend as a true friend or not is
disempowering.
I just see different degree of friendships. Some friends are very close
to me, while some aren"t. Some will do all they can to help me, while
others won"t. Some I can hang out for a long time with, others I"ll
just hang out an hour or two and then need to move on to something
else. They are just different degrees of friendship, not "false" or
"true" friends.
Maybe I"m wrong? I dunno, I just don"t see the value in judging friends as to whether they are true friends or not.
Ultimately, I think friendship is a transaction. Of course, it"s a very subtle transaction ...
We"re friends with the people we are friends with, because we get
something out of it, on some level; and if that supply stops, or our
friends" needs change, we can lose that friend.
In this sense, most friendships are conditional (not that that"s a bad thing).
I believe our only true friend, who cares in all conditions, has to be ourself.
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